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 Wednesday, October 21, 2009

RSR: Episode #18: Romantic Relationships

By Diana Hsieh @ 8:00 PM

Hooray! Episode #18 of Rationally Selfish Radio is ready and waiting!

In this episode, I answer three questions on romantic relationships concerning (1) friendship after a failed romance, (2) romance between people of very different philosophies, and (3) managing finances in marriage.

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Thursday, October 22, 2009 at 8:42:55 mst
Comment ID: #1
Name: Aquinas Heard
E-mail: Aquinas23(at)aol.com


Diana,

I really enjoyed this podcast. I especially appreciated your breakdown of how you and Paul handle your finances. I look forward to listening to future episodes.

Aquinas Heard


Thursday, October 22, 2009 at 9:44:31 mst
Comment ID: #2
Name: Paul Hsieh
E-mail: paul(at)geekpress(dot)com
URL: http://www.geekpress.com

Aquinas: Because I purchase all my astrology books with "play money" rather than "house money", it's helped avoid a lot of marital conflict!


Thursday, October 22, 2009 at 13:51:02 mst
Comment ID: #3
Name: Dan Edge
E-mail: i.am.dan.edge(at)gmail.com
URL: http://danedgeofreason.blogspot.com/

Diana,

You inspired me! I listened to your podcast for the first time today, and decided to start my own. Appropriately enough, my kick-of podcast is a response/extrapolation of an issue you touched on in your most recent podcast, regarding demoting a relationship. Thanks for the continuing inspiration, Lady!

http://danedgeofreason.blogspot.com/2009/10/notes-from-edge-episode ...

--Dan Edge


Thursday, October 22, 2009 at 18:02:44 mst
Comment ID: #4
Name: Vicki Genther
E-mail: vgenther(at)gmail.com

Diana,

I've enjoyed all your podcasts, but I especially enjoyed this one. Please revisit the topic of romantic relationships in future episodes!


Thursday, October 22, 2009 at 19:07:58 mst
Comment ID: #5
Name: Diana Hsieh
E-mail: diana(at)dianahsieh.com
URL: http://www.dianahsieh.com/blog

Thank you so much, Vicki! I have more questions to answer pertaining to romantic relationships, so you'll definitely hear more on that topic!


Friday, October 23, 2009 at 15:06:37 mst
Comment ID: #6
Name: Anonymity

Regarding question #1 in this podcast, from what I've read and from my own experience, women seem to be more desirous of friendship after a romantic relationship is over... we seem less likely to want to totally break off contact. I'm in my 50s, and I only know one man who ever told me that he figured that after the romance was over and given some distance (of time), he actually wanted to be friends with most of the women he'd ever dated.

The man with whom I've been in a long-term relationship is still friends with one of his ex-girlfriends. But IMO he's somewhat unusual.

When I've contemplated ending a romantic relationship, for me, I had to get to the point where I was willing to never see that person again... because that is how most of the men I've known have interpreted the end of the romantic relationship.

Personally, I find it painful that you can only be in one or the other type of relationship, because (in most cases) I don't like being in the position of never being able to see that person again.


Saturday, October 24, 2009 at 10:38:45 mst
Comment ID: #7
Name: Adam Buker
E-mail: adam(at)adambuker.com
URL: http://www.adambuker.com

Your comments on all three questions are quite relevant to my own life â€"most particularly the second. For instance, I'm engaged to a woman who is Catholic. Although she has expressed curiosity in my beliefs, she is still wanting to practice her religion. In order to decide to pursue this relationship, I've had to carefully weigh whether the value that our relationship has to me outweighs the disvalue of dealing with the inevitable conflicts that will occur as a result of the fundamental differences in our world-views.

Part of this calculation has been getting to know her and judge whether or not she is a person who is fundamentally guides her life by reason, or allows faith and emotion to dominate her actions. Based on knowing her for the past two years, and on knowing her desire to understand the ideas that shape human life, plus the way she sets about choosing/achieving goals that are difficult yet personally rewarding for her; I have to conclude that she is basically rational (though obviously holding false premises).

In our many discussions regarding our own respective world-views, she has indicated that she tends to go back and forth on the existence of a god and is very open to the possibility that she is wrong. She has just started reading The Fountainhead on her own initiative after I explained to her one night the impact that it had on my own life. When I asked her what motivated her to pick up the novel she replied that she wanted to better understand me. She then explained that she was curious about what I believe and the book that started me down that path. So far she has said that she likes what she is reading so it may be possible that she will find her own pathway to Objectivism independent of me. Even if she doesn't, she has made my life so much more enjoyable that I believe I will be able to spend the rest of my life with her regardless.


Sunday, October 25, 2009 at 0:53:06 mst
Comment ID: #8
Name: Anonymity

I would think that a podcast focusing on male-female differences, and how much of those are biology v. culture, would be interesting. As a young girl, I was influenced somewhat by feminism, and I imagined that men and women were "supposed to be" more alike than they are. I would have to say that the reality was at least mildly shocking a few times. I've been good friends with certain guys, and "palled around" with a few of them. They would relax and say certain things in their less guarded moments, and I was mildly shocked at how differently they saw certain things.


Wednesday, October 28, 2009 at 17:17:20 mst
Comment ID: #9
Name: Galileo Blogs
E-mail: rayniles(at)rcniles.com
URL: http://galileoblogs.blogspot.com

This is the first podcast I have listened to, and I enjoyed it. It was well-executed in delivery and structure. Most importantly, the content was useful and interesting. I plan to listen to more of them.

Thank you, and keep up the good work!


Friday, October 30, 2009 at 0:06:36 mst
Comment ID: #10
Name: vĂȘtements femmes
E-mail: kkity99(at)yahoo.cn
URL: http://www.yaamaa.com

Thank you, and keep up the good work!


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